Beloved Leadership #3 - Reckon with History
We often skip the opportunity to deeply process and learn from history. The past is either not worth our time and consideration or so venerated to be beyond reproach (which, for some unknown reason, means beyond examination).
Beloved Leadership #2 - Prioritizing Relationships
Prioritizing relationships does not mean doling out perks, bonuses, or hearty handshakes. It is an intentional move away from the transactional view of relationships that is part of business as usual - dropping the idea that who you know is the pathway to what you want.
Beloved Leadership #1 - Sharing Decision-Making Power
How we lead has a direct impact on what a team or organization can accomplish. I’ve seen far too many leaders un-thoughtfully recreate familiar processes that brought out the worst in their people, and their organizations failed to thrive. In this series of articles, I aim to identify leadership actions that will shift the quality of an organization’s output by evolving how the organization works in seven key ways. To create a beloved organization, you need beloved leadership. This series will dig into what that means in practice.
Leadership that Prevents Conflict
Thinking about managing conflict is draining, and managing conflicts is stressful. Leadership skills that prevent conflict are not a fantasy; you can do it.
Working with (not against) big personalities
Big personalities can be so much fun! Or they can be really tough to navigate. Here are two steps to make working together easier and more productive.
Making Tough Leadership Decisions
One reason hard decisions are hard is because they might negatively impact people around you. Tough decisions might actually hurt people, their feelings, their relationship with you, their life path - through no fault of their own. Avoiding hard decisions or passing the buck doesn’t actually help. (Nor does ramping up your energy to blame others, the circumstances, the state of the world, the fates, your teammates, the past...)
How Popular Leaders Actually Survive the Fury of Unpopular Decisions
Let’s suppose you’re you are (or want to be) both a popular leader and a good one. Being a good leader means sometimes your good decisions are unpopular. You knew it was inevitable, and now it’s happening - your teammates are not happy with your decision. And that’s ok because you are ready for this situation.
Teaching Organizational Culture
In my time cultivating oodles of leaders and leadership teams, it was repeatedly reinforced that paying attention to creating team culture is worth the effort. I’ve seen so many teams latch onto the quirks, foibles or neuroses of their leadership team, for better or for worse - generally for worse.
Discipline without Punishment
Classic models of organizational discipline policy damage work relationships and create a toxic work environment. And, I have yet to meet a leader who is stoked to be the disciplinarian for their team. If you hate how discipline works (or, more likely, how it doesn’t work) at your organization, it’s time to take a look at your discipline policy and come up with something better.
You might be a slightly anti-capitalist leader
I’ve noticed a fascinating theme lately of leaders rebelling against the expectations of capitalist culture. They are not against participating in commerce (they are making money); they are fighting the currents of toxic systems that create toxic organizational culture.
How to Find Workplace Allies
It can be lonely in a challenging work environment. When you know things can be better and you have ideas for making that change happen, trying to do it alone is enough to make many people not even bother to try.
Great Leaders are Good Quitters
I have been fascinated with the book Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away by Annie Duke. It is clear to me now that great leaders need to be good at quitting.
Cultivating Leaders with Appreciation
I frequently hear from people in organizations (particularly nonprofit organizations) who want to cultivate more leaders from within but are struggling to get people to step into leadership roles. One huge barrier to people stepping up is that they see and hear (and maybe are repeatedly told) that leaders in the organization are not appreciated.
Three Ways to Upgrade Your Informal Leadership
There are only so many spaces for people with official leadership titles, but there is infinite room for informal leaders to make an impact. Teammates look to informal leaders to learn team culture and how things work. They influence the team and are respected teammates.
When your teammates are angry
There was a heartbreaking moment at a recent webinar where I was co-presenting. One leader told the group about how the changing and ambiguous future was affecting her team. Specifically, someone was angry with every decision and every step forward. Really angry.
Leadership Experiments
Leadership experiments give you a structure to develop your skills by trying new things. Not every experiment is an amazing life-changing success, but a well-constructed experiment will give you useful information and insights you can’t get any other way. The actual experience of carrying out an experiment builds your adaptability while giving you insights.